If you don’t know what F4F, it basically is the short form for follow for follow. It’s popularly known on instagram but I assume it can be popular on pretty much any social media outlet that has a follower system.
I’m on instagram as a bookstagram (an account on instagram that focuses mainly on books.) You can follow my account here. And as far as I’m concerned, everyone deals with the comment “F4F” from time to time. Most of the comments I’ve read from instagrams I follow tell me that they absolutely hate “F4F.” Some of them even went as far as posting “Do not ask F4F” in their bio,which I understand because it is their own given right. It’s there account. They can choose to not do follow for follow or choose to bypass follow for follow comments on their pictures.
However, is F4F really that bad?
My opinion? I think not. I’m guilty of doing F4F from time to time on accounts I really appreciate and enjoy because why not build friendships like that? By mutually following each other, we’re solidfying our bond and appreciation for each other’s accounts. It’s like liking someone and having them reciprocate their love to you back. They can decide no, they don’t want to follow you because your account may not be what they’re looking for but at least you tried to get them to see what you had to offer. And then you can have the choice of deciding you should continue following them because they are really cool or you choose to stop because hey! Maybe you changed your mind anyways.
What I really think the problem here is the misunderstanding people tend to have with this seemingly spam comment or maybe it’s just the bad reputation it gets because everyone seems to do it.
Personally, I do it because:
- I like your account. Please check out mine and if you do, please follow
- I think we can be friends, let’s follow each other
- By mutually following each other, I feel like our bond is stronger
- I don’t ask F4F for every account and only to accounts I really like! Trust me! You’re a gem and I’m not a player!
What I think people think when I ask F4F?
- She’s doing this to everyone
- She’s thirsty
- She will have no interest whatsoever in my photos and will not like or comment on them
- She probably follows a thousand accounts and doesn’t like half of them
- Lol does she even go here?
Occasionally, I get the comment “I don’t do follow for follow” or I never see them follow me back. It’s pretty much the same as “I don’t think your account is that great so I’ll pass on this one, hun.” But I don’t let it hurt me too much. They have their own reason and I have my own for not following back people who ask me for F4F. I can’t please everyone with my account which is fine.
What do you guys think? Do you have a bookstagram account and hate it when people ask you for F4F? Comment down below to let me know your thoughts! 😀 And if you follow me and want me to check yours out, I’ll be more than happy to oblige. I love new beautiful accounts to check out! ❤